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Mommy owns a power drill and she knows how to play with it

August 23, 2013

Sometimes my best intentions to blog weekly end up not coming to fruition. Work, social and family commitments get in the way.  Gladly, none of those got in my way during the past week– just my lack of motivation.

My fundraising slowed down this past week, but still continues to limp along decently.

Raised: $1,400
Goal: $35,000

Wait, maybe decent is an overstatement.  People, pull out your credit cards before I pick your pockets to get to it myself!

The past few weeks I have been working to paint my baby’s changing station and also collecting random items that are much-needed for her arrival.   I realize that many people think there is little that I can’t do and that thought is true.  Yes, I can do many DIY projects (hell, I can arc weld, people) if I have the patience and the equipment, but like cooking – I lack the desire. Continue Reading

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Momma, can you wipe my tears…or at least do arts and crafts with me?

August 1, 2013

This week I bought my first baby furniture/equipment something or other.  My new prized possession? A table top changing station found at a garage sale for $10.  It is in need of a bit of a face lift and like my knee, desperately in need of a joint replacement or at least tuned up.

AdoptionMotherInfantTable

Mom, you want to do arts and crafts with me? Painting for your granddaughter made easy!

When I found this precious little table ,waiting to be transformed from wood color to white (thanks to my mother…though she remains unaware of her project), instantly I decided the perfect home for it was on top of the chest of drawers I picked up this spring for $80 at Habitat for Humanity’s refurbished store.  Yes, the chest needs a face lift as well, but that project remains in a holding pattern for another day.

 

Dresser

 

This little changing table made me recognize how many things I am unable to currently do for my future child.   Similar to my not knowing how to fix the corner of this little changing table there will be many situations I will be at a loss on how to handle, but those struggles will be much harder when it comes to wiping her tears.   How will I know the first time she gets sick if her ear aches or a tummy hurts and how to soothe them?  How do I soothe my own tears when my heart hurts from seeing  pain in her eyes? How will explain family members who choose not to participate in her life for one selfish reason or another? Mommy, why are you not married (ok, I am holding out that God plans to change the current relationship dynamics in my life)?

My mother says “the best mother is the childless mother”.  My security in my mothering skills is strong, but only when it comes to changing diapers, kissing boo-boos and helping with homework.  I know that I want to teach my daughter how to respect her body, have her words and actions to honor to her true value, teach her to give hugs without limitations, but kisses seldom.  My “lists” of ways to love my daughter hopefully will include leaving an impression on her heart on how to make her mark on the world.  If she impacts the people in her life in the way I know she will impact mine, then my success — immeasurable.

May my mothering actions at least reflect 1% of the love my heart already feels for her.

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Momma got her some white girl moves!

July 17, 2013

Raised: $900

Goal: $35,000

Disclaimer: My original desire to provide a weekly update to everyone seems a smidge aggressive some weeks considering that I’m juggling RockScar Love, freelance social media work and looking for a job.  I know what you’re thinking: how I am going to handle Bella Boo Boo Bunny in addition to all of this?  I don’t know, but I will.

With my party days in my past, I’ve focused the last 10 years of my life on my career and coming into my own. In my 20s, I partied like most irresponsible young adults. A few times a week I frequented nightclubs to dance the night while ABBA, Michael Jackson and Cyndi Lauper boomed in the sound system (I would get my Elaine Benes on with my white woman moves and dang it, I was good at it!). At one point in my life, my bedtime was at 5am, not 10pm (ok, 9:30).  In the past two weeks, twice I found myself up until 3:30 in the morning after staying up chatting with friends. Of course, paying for it dearly the next day.

Life pre-adoption. Pre-Mommy. Pre-exhausted

Since my wild nights on my sofa with my girlfriends, I’ve wondered if these mark the final days of Single Amy versus Mommy Amy?  Yes, my marital status remains “single”, but my heart has already begun making decisions based on my daughter and her best interest. Will I never go out again?  Of course, I probably will, on occasion, but my thoughts focus on the impact the things I do will have on my future child. And it’s a given that her morning snuggles carry a worth more than a lifetime of nights out dancing, or anything else in the world for that matter.

 

 

Completed this week:

Purchased two fire extinguishers for our home per adoption home study requirements.

Purchased 15 baby bottles and cups for Baby Bottle Fundraiser.  Baby bottle fundraisers include the assistance of children helping to raise money for adoption costs.  Children of all age can help to fill a baby bottle once or multiple times with change. Each bottle holds approximately $25 in coins. Please let us know if your family is interested in setting a goal to assist in fundraising for Baby Isabella.

Almost completed reading the book, Baby Wise.

Secured the donations of football tickets, pair of shoes, and jewelry for large fundraising event.

 

 

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Are sweaty women better mommies?

July 2, 2013

As most of you know or should know, I set up my adoption fund a few weeks ago.  When I started this process I committed to my future baby benefactors to keep them up to date about the latest and greatest of what I have accomplished.  Update:

Fundraising goal is $35,000

Raised: $700

Adopting is a very complicated process that involves a home study, finding an attorney or agency and then having the right mother chose the right family to love the baby.

The home study requires the adoptive parents to accomplished an extensive list of tasks including, but not limited to, FBI background check, updated animal and human vaccinations, reference letters, doctors letters, etc.  The life of each home study extends only one year and I pray that my wait for a child proves short and pain free.

Updated shots for my pets for the Adoption Home Study

Updated shots for my pets for the Adoption Home Study

 

I have started trying to collect items for my home study so that I when I start my paperwork my approval will be expedient.  This past weekend I went to Camp Wolf in Duluth to get all of my pets their updated shots.  Camp Wolf, a pet paradise with perfect prices, worked with SPCA to offer discounted shots….REALLY discounted pricing.   I packed up two cats and a dog into my car and headed over to stand in line for the love of my future child.  To get the visual you need to know that my shoulder‘s labrum and rotator cuff is torn and I sweat like Paula Dean on the Today Show.  After standing in line for 2.5 hours outside in 90 degree weather, I finally made it inside the store to meet the vet and comfort my children through their shots.

Heading home I realized I had a small sense of accomplishment in regards to my adoption after getting my kids their shots.  Yes, sounds dumb, but with the search for more stable employment and better health insurance, I have felt like I have accomplished nothing in regards to bringing my daughter home besides having her name inscribed on my heart.  Yes, I want a little girl and Isabella Beloved will be her name.

My next “to-do” list items include lining up my reference letters, fire extinguishers and also securing a few baby items like car seats and bouncers through visiting garage sales.  Until next time….please feel free to read more about my adoption journey and also donate to bringing hope to the Tippins’ family.

Please feel free to lift our family’s journey up in your prayers or good vibes for the following:

Job
Success for RockScar Love
Financial support for this journey
Inexpensive pricing for car seat, bouncer and baby monitor